It’s not hard for me to recall my middle school days, when it was said that I had the nappiest hair of all time. Yet, I still don’t seem to have an issue with the “N word” or the term “nappy”. Words are only as derogatory as we make them out to be, if you ask me.
The roots of the word “nappy” does not have the most pleasant origins, it started out as a term to describe a fuzzy layer of yarn or cloth, but later on it became a way to further insult African slaves. Even knowing all of this, I am still not offended. If a word with a neutral meaning can be turned into something with a negative connotation why should its reputation be forever tarnished?
For me freedom of speech and the usage of words are the most definite form of self expression. I’ve never been the type of girl to believe in “lady like language” and I don’t believe in using any barriers with my speech. I don’t think that swearing is taboo or certain words are never to be spoken because at the end of the day they are just words and as a people we determine what they do and do not mean.
Ultimately we are the ones who are in control of the words; the words do not control us. If people are offended by the term “nappy” perhaps it is because the people in our own culture use the word so ignorantly. When kids tease other children and use the word nappy as an insult, think about it, they have learned it somewhere, and most likely they have learned it from their household.
Wherever they have learned it from, they were taught or conditioned to believe that “nappy” is a bad thing. For some, the chains attached to this word are hard to break, even though it has been centuries since the birth of its loathsome meaning generation after generation it has been passed throughout our culture. Many women still believe they cannot go natural because their hair is “nappy” or they don’t have “good hair”.
The natural movement is showing women every day that nappy is beautiful and there is nothing wrong with a little kink in your do. Nappy should in my view should be celebrated instead of frowned upon, because kinky is queen ♔.